Silence speaks…

Silence speaks and indeed in volumes. Silence is a very powerful communication tool. It must be heard and only then do you realize that it speaks the unspeakable! It weighs more than words and speaks louder than words for sure! Hence it’s often said that silence is golden. It’s very tough to refute silence in a debate. It gives out many messages and hence is as easy to misunderstand or misinterpret it as it is to understand!!

Periods of silence in music, dance and theater mean a lot and are used in the right time and right context to denote some deep thoughts, allowing things to sink in the minds of the audience. The pause in music can convey a powerful message than the chords. That pause in a conversation is just as important as the words that follow it. It may even be more essential. Look at the white spaces between the letters on this page; aren't they as important as the letters themselves? Silence gives significance to that which is around it. It is the pause in a conversation that gives you the feeling that something meaningful is happening. It implies that the other person is actually listening and absorbing what you had to say. And then comes a thoughtful response. It could be less than a second, but this little "nothing" carries intense meaning.

More often than not, silence can be very painful and unbearable. Especially when u are seeking some answer or justification from the other party but u in turn get only silence! It can be frustrating!! When you do not get the right consent at the right moment and the same is being conveyed through an indefinite period it could be very bothersome. How do you plead your innocence in relationships and situations if you decide to be silent? You shall keep wondering till death as to what happened? Y did that silence prevail? Did u really deserve that “moment of silence”? It can hurt you big time.

Silence has the power to heal the turbulence of emotions. Silence must be observed. When you observe silence it becomes meditation. More often than not, these days we see every other yoga teacher or a doctor suggesting meditation to people who are busy in their mundane life, worrying about the nonsensical happenings within and without them, making them the slaves to the two great evils - “stress and strain”!

We are accountable to something or someone superior. Foremost, ourselves!! You need some time and moment to speak to yourself and that can be done in silence alone! It is a wonder tool to understand one self. It gives a chance to speak to one’s inner self. A chance to contemplate on the deeds. To introspect. Silence instills stillness and quietude allowing the mind to calm and relax. In silence, you become conscious of the consciousness. Perhaps what we need is a little "white space." A moment of silence - For personal reflection. For contemplation. For world peace. Period.


Read an article pertaining to silence in TOI. Following is an excerpt of the same-

Says psychiatrist Dr Avdesh Sharma, "When we talk, a chain of thoughts gets translated into speech, it is loss of energy. We think 30 thoughts per minute. In silence we think 5, when we're agitated they go up to 60. Silence slows down our thoughts. This reduces the chance of misinterpretation."

Used right, silence communicates trust. When used in love, it shows we care. It can be a sword too. Silence is far easier to punctuate than language. We just need to choreograph quietness. As your confidence level grows, you will find it easier to include moments of quiet. "The silent points are punctuation points that help you hear the composition of life," adds Sharma. All it takes is strength of silence to resolve a complicated dialogue.

A hush of words, a pause to kickstart your lost chance, all over again!

Bamboozled!

In reticent times, u realize that the ones you consider close aren’t actually close. The ones u consider as the best aren’t the best. You realize that you were not kept in the loop when something important happened in their lives. When they considered you the most at all times and when, once upon a time, the vice-versa was also true, you still expect to be there with that person in all walks of life! Is that too much to expect? There is a seed of potential hope that is laid when you promise your consciousness that the other person is gonna stay with you for a lifetime or accompany you in the journey of life, which of course only time decides. Does that mean we are taking “friends” for granted? It hurts and hurts big time when you get to know that a close confidant of yours has hidden something from you or has been doing something without your knowledge though it was decided that he/she would do it or you would be a part of it and nothing was confirmed yet. You plan things together. But when actually the plans get converted to actions you are not part of it. Well you may not have asked for your share but you at least do expect to be a part of your friend’s experience. Don’t you? Is that too much to have asked? How fair is it on your friend’s part to have buried it? Well, in another point of view, it’s only but natural to share, to confide in you when the other person is comfortable doing so. But yet, when you do get a hint that you are somewhere being neglected and being avoided spurts in the sense of insecurity. That’s the worst emotional turmoil one can go through. Dilapidated! You just lose trust and faith in the other person. Not only in the other person but also in the camaraderie. Don’t you? But it’s not that they are deceits or have wanted to betray you. It has just happened and you don’t really know why. You are being left out! For no reason. And it’s just as simple as that. It doesn’t seek an interrogation or an explanation but yet you still do wanna seek justification!!!! I don’t even think I can allow things to take its course. I can neither hand it over to the choice of zestiny. I have to do something about it. But I don’t really know what to do in such a case. Do u? I am flummoxed... In search of an answer. Can you help?

Deja brew

Happened to see this hoarding outside the India coffee house in Tirumala. The picture quality is bad for I captured this on the move! What else can you expect from a true fan of this divine drink!
The quote by S. Radhakrishnan on this hoarding read, “A cup of coffee dissolves drowsiness, sharpens your wit, stimulates your mind and loosens your tongue!” [Wink] Good one right??
Having read that I could literally smell ‘freshly ground’ heaven! I couldn’t help but grab a cup of hot coffee. So, as soon as we descended down to Tirupathi, we rushed to the nearby India Coffee House. But I must tell you that the coffee was very disappointing and depressing! Preparing coffee is an art. As laid by the Turkish proverb - “Coffee should be black as hell, strong as death, and sweet as love”.
Everybody should believe in something. And I always believe I'll have another coffee. ‘DO NOT STOP AT ONE’ is the motto, atleast when it comes to coffee! [Teethed smile] Hence without being dejected for having a bad cup of coffee, we went right into another hotel nearby and grabbed another cuppa of filter coffee. Hmmmmm……….. Exhilarating experience! It was 11 PM. And we were all stimulated. After all, COFFEE, is an anytime drink! [Wink]

Dil Chahta Hai...

Baar baar dekho hazaar baar dekho. Yeh dekhne ki cheez hai!! Dil Chata Hai ki main iss movie ko dekthi hi rahoon. One of my favorite movies. I have watched it umpteen times and I just don’t seem to get enough of it. It’s a stress buster. It’s so fresh till date. I watch this movie at least once a month!!!! Absolutely extraordinary! Dil Chahta Hai has been successful in defining the meaning of “class” in Hindi Cinema. A cult classic!It marked the beginning of a new era. Renaissance, if I may say. The Gen 'Y' thingie! It’s a movie with which almost all the youngsters of today would wanna relate to. Hats off to Farhan Akhtar for giving us such a brilliant master piece. It is at his creative best. It became the definition of camaraderie and Fun, as well! The movie is so smooth sailing that you never get to know when it ends. U only wish for more at the end. And I only wished, that I never stopped watching it! Very well tailored. Just nothing is a misfit!! I am sure you agree that it’s got a very convincing and a gripping story line. The sense of humor, the emotions and everything else is beautifully synced! Touching, cool and a stylish movie. Remember? The hair style and goatie made news everywhere. What a fashion statement! Even after 8 years of the release of this movie, it has not gone out of style. That's truely a surprise in the world of fashion, which is so volatile and constantly changing!

Aamir, Saif and Akshaye are all remarkable in this movie and have rendered their best performance! Their characters wonderfully portray and reflect a bond that stands outside of just mere friendship and how well they groove in each other in spite of their differences. This bond is strengthened and tested through the passage of time. It marks their friendship as they embrace new boundaries in their lives, together and apart. Awesome threesome.

The subjects catering to love, youth and family are well built. I love all the songs and the way they blend in with the movie. It beautifully transitions the sequences of events. A favorite: The three go on a vacation, and drive to the coast. "Dil Chahta Hai", the title track is so refreshing! Shankar, Ehsaan and Loy have given their best too. Awesome threesome, again!

Following is a mail I received on the things you learn from this movie. Good one. Take a look. I liked it. Hope you do too and concur!

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• There are relationships apart from bf/gf & friendship, that can be very emotional and true, which is beyond the understanding of many people.
  
  
• And yeah even though you may be the best of friends there is always a limit which should never be crossed. Then it starts hurting........... ·
  
  
• Improving your imperfections after you realize them, always take some time.
  
  
• You always don't need to show or prove your gf/bf how much you love or care about her/him, which can sound very boring and finally get you dumped.
  
  
• Believe in Love. True love will never let you down.
  
  
• Never be ashamed to go back to your old friends. Friends are there to understand your mistakes.
  
  
• Do not be afraid of others, always think that others are afraid of you. (remember the Australian Beggar at the railway station?) ·
  
  
• Whenever you need your friend, remember that he is just a phone call away... distance can't separate friends.

• In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.

• It's the friends you can call up at 4 A. M. that matter.

• The only unchangeable certainty is that nothing is certain or unchangeable.
  
  
• The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit with on a porch and swing with, and never say a word, and then walk away feeling it was the best conversation you've ever had.

• Freaking out and enjoying life doesn't need drugs or cigarettes.
  
  
• And last but not the least- do what your heart loves.. Karo wahi jo, DIL CHAHTA HAI !!! Samjhe?

Happy Friendship Day

Rightly said, "friends are made by many acts and are lost often by a single mindless act". To have friends, you must have friendliness in you: selfless and loving, undemanding, with deep concern for others. Only then do you develop a sense of appreciation for this camaraderie. This is such a divine relationship. Truely consecrated. You unfold yourself, dare to be yourself and make yourself visible when a 'friend' is with you.You seek happiness, de-personalize and experience bliss in a friend’s presence. A friend is a mirror and you reflect every single bit of yourself in it! How can a mirror complain of the dancing things seen in it? This bondage crosses beyond caste, creed, gender, age, language and blah blah blah. What’s important is that string of connectivity no matter what the “string” portrays to you! You are in a true friend’s company when you speak just nothing but you have conveyed everything. Just being in their company can give solace and abundant joy. Such is the power. I personally believe that to foster and nurture any relationship, one has to be a “Friend” with the other person, be it between a parent and a child, a husband and a wife, a grandparent and a grandchild or between siblings.


On this day of “International friendship day” (which falls on the first Sunday of August every year), it’s time to recognize your friends and their contribution to your life. Friendship helps to bring peace and positivity to the globe - a great reason to celebrate! Without much ado, call all those old friends you haven't spoken to in ages…Tell them how much they mean to you. Remember the Girl Scout motto: "Make new friends and keep the old, one is silver and the other gold"!

And I seek this opportunity to profess that

You, Dear FRIEND,
have made a huge impact and difference in my life.
You are valued.
I am what I am because of you.
Thanks for being there!

Keep in touch!
Cheers!!

Sometimes in life ~

A friend who supposedly is a Mr./Ms. Clean drops in and your room is in a complete mess (My room is always in a complete mess [wink]). You don’t need to feel embarrassed about it. Those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter… [GRIN] Let the other person know that you have more to do in life than just keeping your room spotless all the time. Sometimes the things scattered around can spurt the creativity in you to do the unusual which otherwise is impossible!

Laugh out loud. Spurt! Clap your hands. Crack a stupid joke. Act immature and childish. It’s just perfect to feel like a kid. It’s only a feel good factor.

“Blame it on ghlerin, gastrin, orexin, obestatin, TSH, relaxin, cortisol, testosterone, adrenalin or just wat eva”!! It’s only but natural to blame it on the hormones. You sometimes are just NOT responsible for the actions you put up!

Just because somebody doesn’t think as you do, doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t deserve to be your friend. What’s the fun if you find roomful of your clones? You wouldn’t like it if you find every other mouth speaking the same lines, isn’t it? All of us are meant to be different. That’s how we are designed by God. It’s nice to have a debate (as long as it’s healthy and it doesn’t lead to any bitterness). Step in the other person’s shoes. Who knows what you discover?

You go for an interview and realize your nails are undone! Hellooo dude(tte), sometimes there’s just not time for it all. Isn’t it? And after all its me who will be working for you… not my nails!

It’s okay to pronounce words wrongly or speak a bad tongue. After all you learn when you make mistakes. Trying is what sets you apart. Nobody is born genius, after all!

Don’t be too bothered about how you arrange and use the cutlery displayed on the table in a restaurant. I accept possessing such finesse is appreciated but sometimes your fingers could give a very satiable feeling! Try it. Just use your hand and lick your fingers at the end. I bet, the taste shall linger for days [Wink]

Let’s say, you have a friend over a cup of coffee or you have been friends with someone for a long time now and you decide to set out for lunch. In the course, if you by chance spill coffee or 2 grains of rice on the table, mind it, it’s just ok. You don’t need to feel sorry about it. It’s ok. Some actions are involuntary.


Eat just wat eva is on the kitchen slab or straight from the fridge even if your microwave is working. Sometimes, you just feel that hungry. It’s perfectly human.

Ask for doggie bags in a restaurant if you have ordered too much. Hunger pangs cannot be measured!

Go out for a party or elsewhere with an unwashed hair. You never really got time…. So what? Just tie it up casually and you are done. Don’t look concerned. [Teethed smile]

Its fine to trip when you are wearing your pointed heels. Don’t feel embarrassed and look around. Everyone does trip at some point or the other in their lives.


It’s nice to pamper and splurge on yourself. Do not ruminate your thoughts on this, post a relaxing indulgence.

Well…. The list could go on……………………..

If you have nodded your head for anything listed above, then you exactly know what I mean. Ladies and gentlemen, it’s time to get out of the “self-sabotage” image. You don’t need to be adept at it. We are not contesting in a Miss/Mr./Mrs. Congeniality!! Having said that, don’t make things very obvious. It’s time now to stop playing the self-blame game. Just learn the trick to handle those squirm-inducing situations…. Remember that mistakes only occur, not recur! [Wink] Anyways, don’t take life very seriously. Take yourself light so that the journey is smooth. Let not such petty things bother you much. It’s good to forgive yourself and others. Practice saying “Sorry” and “thank you” all the time. It doesn’t take much. For the big things you always do that, but it’s the small things that really matter in the long run. Don’t you think?

'Drink' and 'Drive'

I was travelling in an auto on the way back home, engrossed in the traffic and the traffic of thoughts!! A spanking white Skoda Octavia zoomed by. And I just couldn’t seem to take my eyes off the car. Well well well… hold! It’s not the car that caught my eyes but the billboard behind the car… It read –

Surely Drink and Drive!
Drink COFFEE and Drive!!

I being an aficianado of this bitter brew had to love this 'instantly'. I could almost smell coffee![Tongue out]. The billboard surely added a zing to the car!

I plan to hoard the same post behind my car. Oh well, that when I buy one though! [Wink]